Loving Yourself Everyday

I Welcome you with the One Unifying Force known as Love. This love holds all things together in their perfect place and in their perfect time.

The process of loving yourself everyday is one of the most fulfilling and direct ways to give and receive love every day. Loving yourself is a theme that we hear all of the time; “just be positive and love yourself and you will feel better.” While for some people this statement may ring true, for others it is a little harder to get there from where they are in their lives. There are times in our lives that we are in the midst of trouble, right in the center of what we don’t want to be happening. In these times you can’t just remove or forget how you feel because that is how you are feeling at that moment and to disregard it would be lying to yourself. The best thing to do in this situation is be honest with yourself and feel whatever you are feeling at that moment. Denying how you feel at any moment will not push away how you feel forever; at best it will hold back those feelings or emotions until a situation presents itself and you will be able to express them. This comes in the form of getting upset or mad about something, only to find out that what you got mad at really wasn’t what was really bothering you. Often times, there are deeper reasons for all of your emotions and feelings. The question becomes not why that thing did or does get me mad or angry, but what is at the core of this feeling or emotion.

Self inquiry is the basis for self discovery. When you go through life and live through certain situations, you get to know about yourself and how you will react. You get to know about your characteristics and behavior. After a while, usually at about 30 years of age, you begin to discover who you really are. Since the beginning of your life you have been told who you are and how you should act in the world. You learn what is acceptable and what is not. You learn who you should be and if you are lucky you are taught to learn about yourself through your experiences in life. This self definition process is a part of life and culture. When you were born your parents or whoever looked after you was concerned about your well being and your health and vitality, and only wanted the best for you, and supplied you with the resources you needed to grow and prosper. Their love was perfect in the sense that the core principle for their diverse actions of keeping you alive was love. Look back over your life and see if you can point out different parts of your character that was directly or indirectly influenced by your parents or guardians, the answers will surprise you (they did for me.)

So much of who we are is identified by our culture or ways of doing things. Our environment, either family, friends, religion, beliefs, or any other influential factors, helps mold how we view life and ourselves in regard to life. There are no absolutes, but usually how we are raised is the way we view the world. This world view then begins to change when we begin to develop our Self-Identity. When we start to evaluate questions of life not from the place of what we were told or what we believe, we instead seek out the answers on our own. We start to question the held beliefs and ways of doing things. The whole scene of life suddenly looks open and brand new. The things we took for truths we now ask “are they the absolute truth?” You step onto the path of defining who you are and once you start walking on this road, you will feel different and even look different. Being conscious of what is going on about you is a place of power and mastery. This place is where you can start to put all of the pieces back together again to view the full and more honest picture of who you really are.

So here we are searching out who we are and why we do the things we do and it’s all very interesting and exciting. Then inevitably we find out some things about ourselves that we don’t like and want to change. At this point is where loving yourself every day will come in handy and help you sort through the hardships that are coming back up to the surface. When you love yourself or give love to another person place or thing, your intention is to show your appreciation and gratitude for what the person, place or thing has done for you. In the case of a mate you make love and show love to your mate because this is the normal exchange of love between two people. When you have a favorite spot in the park that puts your mind at ease and relaxes the stress in your body you go and enjoy sitting in that spot and enjoy all that it has to give. In doing this you are giving love to your favorite spot by sitting there and the favorite spot is giving you love by supplying the experience of relief. In love there is always a give and take of energy.

Loving yourself every day is the process of giving yourself love through the knowledge that all things work together for your happiness. This knowledge intuits that no matter how the situations and events look or feel they are there to bring about the best conclusion for the evolution of your consciousness. Loving yourself means accepting all aspects of yourself and embracing all the things inside of you that you experience as being negative or evil. These negative or evil energies are all there for a purpose. The purpose of all life is to evolve and grow in consciousness. These energies are there as teachers, teachers that want to impart onto you a lesson, and teachers that want thanks and love in return. Loving every part of your being means loving yourself even when you don’t feel like loving yourself. Look at the situations in your life and instead of seeing the negative feelings as bad or evil, ask “what is your purpose in my life?” You will find that the energies that you deem to be negative are really there to teach you how to deal with yourself and help you to become aware of your thoughts, words and actions. They are not here to be erased from existence but they are here to be utilized for your development and in so doing you will learn what and what not to do when those energies make their entrance. Once you look directly at a hardship or problem they disappear into the truth of their existence.

The truth is that hardships and pain are here to bring you to a place where you will learn to love yourself every day, by accepting all of yourself. In turn, you will learn about yourself, from loving yourself. We as human beings constantly love ourselves without even noticing it. When you breathe in and out, when your heart beats, when your blood circulates, your organs are supplying all the love and support your body needs in order to maintain and function in this world. When we are interested in a topic or learn and discover something new, the rush of new information produces a feeling of ecstasy or what some call the AH-HA moment. Your mind takes this information in and gives you more and more ideas of new discoveries and experiences. You and your mind are exchanging love through the process of acquiring knowledge, there is a give and a take. Most of the time this is the end of the exchanges between ourselves and our bodies and minds. However, there is a third element, and that is the element of the soul or the self. This is the little voice on your shoulder or what people call your CONSCIENCE. That voice never steers you wrong and will always guide you into the correct situations at the correct times. When you commit to spending time with yourself in quiet time or meditation you love yourself and your soul by quieting the body and mind and listening to what you have to say to yourself. This is like taking a bird’s eye view of a situation and instead of seeing things from the level of the physical reality or first floor; you can now take a higher view by going up to the penthouse and viewing your life from the top floor. This bird’s eye view is what we come into contact with when we accept and go with the flow of life by loving ourselves every day.

Acceptance of all of ourself is the process of sending healing love into our past and future from the always moment of now.

Dwayne Chamble